PUNISHMENT IS A WRONG CHOICE
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PUNISHMENT IS A WRONG CHOICE
Child development requires some processes. Punishment, conferment are included these processes like education or growing. Thus, these processes are so important for children’s future and they must be passed without any problems. One of the important process of child development is punishment of children. Today, many families punish their children to teach right and wrong. It means punishment of children is a remarkable issue which needs debate. Punished children’s development must be examined carefulley to grasp the necessity needlessness of child punishment. Actually, while many psychologists oppose punishig children, some people strongly support its necessity. No matter where this dabate goes to, children should not be punished due to negative effects of punishment.
First of all, punishment affects develeopment of children negatively. There will be weakness in power of children’s personality because punishment leads to lacking of self confidence. Studies have identified that there will be some emotional problems on punished children and they have loss of confidence and motivation. Moreover, they sometimes feel that they can not do anything right( as cited in Stein, 2005). There is start of shyness with lack of self confidence. Therefore, these children are more diffident on account of punishment. Punishment also affects the creativity.
Secondly, punishment draws away children from their family physically and psychologically. Punished children regard punishment as a bad or evil activity and they prejudice against both punishment and their family. Thus, they are full of hate for families and tend to punish their families. This situation results with unexpected happining such as running away from home because children desire no punishment and more freedom. They are all reasons of punishment. Hence, punishment is a significant reason for children to draw away from their home and family.
Finally, punishment can cause serious psychological problems in children’s futures. Events, which are lived today, will definitely show them in future by a character. In the event, punishment will affect the future of children. Generally, punishment causes children to be criminal because these children regard punishment or violence as an acceptible. It means many killers, dictators and thief. As Eren states “ It is known that violence,arising from punishment, channeled children to theft and other crimes” (as cited in Eren, 1994, np). As Arıkan asserts “ The biggest enemy of children is beating” (as cited in Eren, 1994, np ). This indicates that punishment creates a crime. When we hit a child, the child learns it as an acceptiable behaviour and use it for criminals ( Gershoff, p.2, 2008). These punished children have also some problems in family life and work life becaused of harmed psychology and adoptation problems. They use violence and punishment to communicate or agree with people. According to the Epoch, most parents apply the some methods experienced by their families when they growing up their children. They hit their children because they have seen hitting from their parents while they are children(Hosking, n.p., n.d.)Hence future of punished children is damaged and this damage affects the children’s whole life negatively.
Some people may argue that children should be punished to discipline and teach differences between right and wrong. It is the contention of these supporters that children will not repeat wrong behaviours due to horror of punishment and it is an useful method which is used in many countries to discipline children. However, this idea can not go further tham being an immature claim because this is useless and just a claim without any supports. There are many ways to discipline and explain differences right and wrong without punishment. Families can explain right-wrong and reward good manners. This will encourage child to do right behaviours and child will believe that when he or she does right activities s/he will gain more and more. How to behave is learned only when you tell or show to children (Gershoff, p.1, 2008). It can be concluded that family will be more effective as being model with their behaviour than punishment. Family can prevent many situations which lead to doing wrong for children “ A crual component of effective discipline is providing guidelines and expectations for appropriate behaviour ahead of time. In other words, parent’s discipline work consists not only of reacting to misbehaviour but also of preparing children for situations and providing clear expectation for how they should behave” (Gershoff, p.3, 2008). Hence, give countenance to punishment lacks of logical background and have unexpected results.
All in all, attempts trying to justify the children should be punished is destined to being feeble because punishment causes some disorders on children. Punishment affects development of children negatively and it also draws away children from their families physically and psychologically. Finally, punishment can cause serious psychological problems on children in future life. Eren remarks “ Violence will not be beneficial and it will destroy a lot of characteristics from children’s personality”(1994, para.2). Therefore, punishment of children is useless to discipline children and illogical way to educate children.
REFERENCES
Gershoff, E.T. (2008). Principles and Practice of Effective Discipline: Advice for Parents. In Colombus, OH: Center for Effective Discipline. (pp.1-5)
Barnen, R. (1989). Hitting People is Wrong and Children are People Too. In Epoch Worldwide, Physical Punishment of Children. (pp. 1). London, UK.
Stein, J. (2005). To Punish or not to Punish, That is the Question. In The International Child and Youth Care Network, Reading for Child and Youth Care People,77.
Hosking, G. (n.d.). Research Study on the Effects of Smacking. In Wave Trust. Croydon, UK.
Eren, A. (1994, January 24). Cocuk ve Dayak (Child and Beating) Retrieved May 15, 2010, from http:// www.incemeseleler.com/863-cocukvedayak .html